We live in an era where it’s unusual for a person to just be doing one thing. We’re working more jobs, we have more hobbies, and we have larger passions. It’s an incredible time to be alive and have the ability to dip your toes into so many ponds. But with that comes an even greater need and desire for balance. As millennials we have coined the term “self-care.” With so much going on around us we need our alone time to care for our bodies and souls more than ever.
This idea of setting aside time for yourself is foreign to most generations before us. Women especially are expected to “do it all.” Be great mothers, loyal daughters, career focused, sexy but not too sexy, fit and healthy, stylish, cultured, etc. The list goes on and on, and I feel as time passes more pressures come along. However, there is a shift that is slowly taking place. Women are tired of feeling like we must fit into dozens of categories. We want to do it all, but on our own terms. And we deserve to do it all, or none of it at all, on our own terms.
So, when you get the itch to stack your plate with passions and everything in between, how do you manage it all? To be honest I don’t know, and I’m not here to tell you that throwing a sheet mask on will make everything okay. I am, however, here to tell you that balance is an eave and flow that is constantly changing. And when it all seems a little too much to handle, we must let go of our pride and ask for help. Asking for help for most women, men included, can feel like we are giving up. But why do we feel the need to push so hard for so long until we break? Pushing to the point of a breakdown is overwhelming, scary, and exhausting. It’s hard to dust your shoulders off and continue to push after that. So, make a promise to yourself that you will slow down so that you may continue to work at 100% and enjoy your life!
I am a student, I work 2 jobs and freelance for two companies (soon to add more), I own a home with my boyfriend, I have two beautiful dogs, and like everyone I work hard to maintain both my relationships and friendships. On top of all of that I try my hardest to eat healthy and care for my body and my soul. Finding balance isn’t easy but creating habits to maintain it are. Here are some things I (try to) do to maintain balance in my life.
Turn off your phone
You heard me! Turn it off, put it on do not disturb, leave it at home, put it in a drawer, whatever! Just take the time in your day or in your week to shut out all the noise. If we endlessly scroll through social media and answer emails and texts, we will eventually turn into slush. Be present while eating, while watching a movie, while taking a walk. We coast through life on autopilot more than we realize. I’ve eaten entire meals without taking a second away from my phone to enjoy the taste of it. So put the phone down and enjoy your life!
Go to sleep and wake up at a decent time
Pulling an all-nighter may seem like the best idea to get things done, but you will function at less than half of your normal capacity the next day. And if you wake up with 20 minutes to get ready you will feel anxious all day. Your body will be left weak and dehydrated and you will be even closer to experiencing burnout. Use your time wisely throughout the day and schedule a time to begin winding down before bed, your body will thank you.
Take a vacation
Girl, you work hard! You deserve some time away so that you may experience things that will refuel you. This is especially important for those in a creative field. Experiencing other areas of the world will spark your creativity. It does not need to be some grand insta-worthy trip to St. Lucia. Just a trip to another city or even a staycation. Just set aside some time in your year to disconnect from your workflow. Post that “out of office” response and take some time for you!
Know when to say no
Again, we all want to balance it all. A social life, a career, relationships, a healthy body, an enriched mind, etc. But it is not realistic to be able to do all of that all of the time. Some days you will decide to go for a burger over that kale salad. There will be weekends all your friends are going out and you really just want to burrito yourself into your bed. It’s all okay, but just know that no matter what you can say “no” if you know that’s what’s best for you. I am notorious for watching endless youtube videos on morning routines and then I get down on myself because I’m not cooking myself poached eggs and avocado toast every morning. And I am definitely not working out before my day starts, no thank you. And if you do both of those things and more, hell yes girl! What I’m saying is, you don’t have to feel like you are not accomplishing everything just because of something you saw on social media or heard from a friend. Take a moment to pat yourself on the damn back. You are here and you are beautiful, and we are all trying our damn hardest to live this life to the fullest. Dance your own dance and drink your own kool-aid and I promise you this life of yours will be everything you’ve ever wanted and more.
Cheers to you ladies, each and every one of you. And may your life be rich in experience and may you find the balance you need. Take each day one at a time and have patience with yourself as you try and navigate this beautiful & wild life.